Wednesday, 11 July 2012
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Alcohol sobriety, Raving, Waking up...
The goal was to give up alcohol for a while. When i first gave it up, i had no initial timeframe in mind. I didn't know if i was going to go 2 weeks without it, or 3 months, or a year. Eventually i had decided a year would be a good accomplishment for me. I'm now 50 weeks into that year.
To be honest i miss the taste of 312. Best beer ever. I've actually been looking forward to having one like a kid waiting for Christmas. But in 2 weeks, i don't think i'm going to.
This past year i've been looking at my life, the world around me, and my part in it. I've made MANY new amazing friends. People with good hearts. Positive happy people that i didn't think even existed in the world in such numbers. The rave scene. It's changed my life for a second time.
Being a part of the scene again has taught me something. That is the world we live in a REALLY messed up. Not the people in the scene and what we do. It's WHY we do what we do.
I've thought about why we are so attracted to the scene. Why at times we feel the need to get involved with substances when we know it's not good for us. Why we feel the need to be so wreckless and careless with ourselves, and others at times, and how we're all, for the most part ok with it, and that we get involved with or allow such lifestyles to continue at all...
To be a part of something. To be loved by others. To feel good about ourselves. To have a place to go. To feel alive. To feel like we've done something amazing. To have fantastic memories to look back on.
These are the things we all crave in life.
The scene we have is our escape from the real world, our responsibilities, the demands of society, our parents, shitty jobs, schoolwork.. Whatever.
The questions are...
Why don't we have the places to go outside of the scene? Can we make some?
Where are those that love us when it's not the weekend? Friends and family.. What are our relationships with them, do we even try to make them better?
Do we really feel good about ourselves? How can we help each other do so?
Do any of us feel like we're part of something worth living for? If not why?? Lets find ways.Talk to me about this, give me ideas on what you need in life. Help me find ways to make new things happen for everyone.
LETS FILL OUR LIVES WITH THINGS THAT MAKE GOOD MEMORIES.
The dancefloor is a good thing. And it should be enough for all of us. But our lives demand so much that it's not enough for so many of us. We need the answers to the problems, but the problems have to come to the surface first. I need people with like-minds that want to help others step forward. People that really want to make a difference in this world. People that want to help others so that they wont feel the need to abuse substances as the way to make it through life.
Kicking the kids that use out of the scene is NOT the answer. Helping them get through life so they dont need to use IS.
Help me make a difference.
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Right?! That last sentence is a situation that's like putting a bandaid on the problem instead of fixing the source. The questions in the middle seem address just what will fix the problem. I think we were made for relationship, so if we can have strong caring families and friends around us, we can learn to love ourselves (relationships/loving ourselves = two of your questions. As for the other two Q's: ) We need escape but if we become a culture of always escaping, then it can turn bad. I've never been in that scene, so I don't think I can answer what we can do to replicate a similar place. Feeling like there's something worth living for is getting in tune with passions you have and secondly making goals and achieving them. One goal can/should be to improve our relationships with family. "Do we try to make [those relationships] better?" you posed. It's hard, but usually the things that are best for us are on the harder path in life (the path of least resistance makes the river crooked, makes it serpentine --ani difranco). For example, it's easy to eat unhealthy foods but it's often hard to choose the healthy ones. It takes two, though, so if someone is trying to make better relationships and the other person isn't, it probably won't progress far but at least the person tried to better his/her life.
Find something that's bigger than yourself. That'd have to be different for each person but somewhere where you can join people with a common goal is good. What do you want that goal to be. Laughter? Join laughter yoga. A place to put your political passion? Join the local dem/repub org.
I'm curious, what would two rave-goers have in common? What do they both get out of the rave scene? Connecting with people, it sounds like. Escape. Is there anything else you can think of? Haha I think church carries those two characteristics, with much less dancing.
Finally, I will conclude with my personal solution to all this. The way I feel satisfied is to make things with my hands. There was an article in Scientific American Mind that discussed the boredom and dissatisfaction our culture feels, and it's from our technological advances. We press a button and we have dinner, our technology does things for us and we don't get the satisfaction of doing them ourselves. It takes more time, but the time is well worth it to do things myself instead of letting technology do it. I mean, I don't walk to the library all the time. Sometimes I drive. But it's nice to know the amazing things I can do.
PS nice job on your 50 weeks :]
Congratulations. :)
Even though my escapes aren't chemical or dependent, I don't think they are healthy. I sleep, a lot. I used to go to the gym, but it, too, got depressing. I do think that people need a positive escape - but not to stay there too long. It is too easy to escape and avoid things that need attention.